Amanza Smith is not pretending to be shocked by her own headline anymore. The Selling Sunset star, 48, went candid this week about her personal life, admitting she has slept with several men her children know as “uncles”—a term she uses loosely, and affectionately.
Speaking on Harry Jowsey’s Boyfriend Material podcast, reality TV star Smith said the situation has reached the point where even her kids are doing the math.
“There’s so many uncles that I probably have banged,” she said, laughing, before adding that her children have started asking questions.
Jowsey, 28, briefly looked like he’d missed a page. “Your uncles?” he asked.
Smith was quick to clarify. These were not blood relatives, but longtime friends—men embedded enough in family life to earn the honorary title. “You know when you’re close friends with somebody and it’s like, ‘Uncle so-and-so,’” she explained. By her count, there are three such “uncles” with whom things crossed a line.
Now that her daughter Noah and son Braker are old enough to connect dots, Smith says she finds herself reassuring them. Not every uncle comes with a backstory. “Not uncle Brett,” she joked.
Smith joined Selling Sunset in its second season in 2020, bringing a mix of glamour and real-life gravity to the Netflix series. Before the show, she was married to former NFL player Ralph Brown from 2010 to 2012. The couple share two children, born in 2009 and 2011.
Brown’s absence has cast a long shadow. While Smith was filming the show’s second season, her ex-husband vanished. He dropped the children at school in Los Angeles in August 2019 and never returned. Smith filed a missing persons report, but was later told there was no evidence of foul play and that he was not considered missing by authorities.
In interviews since, Smith has been blunt about what that kind of disappearance does to a family. In 2021, she told Us Weekly that what she wanted most were answers—not excuses.
“If you’re struggling, if you’re unstable, if you need help, I can help,” she said at the time. “So my children can have their father back.”
She described Brown as an attentive parent before he left, and said the uncertainty has been harder than finality. “If someone dies, you mourn it,” she said. “This is different. This is abandonment. It’s open-ended.”
Smith’s comments on the podcast were light, even playful, but they sit against a more complicated backdrop. Her life, like the show she stars in, is glossy on the surface and messy underneath. The candor is the point. In a culture built on carefully managed images, Smith seems willing—almost determined—to leave the edges rough.
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Last modified: December 23, 2025
