The fantasy of dating a porn star has long been fuel for teenage daydreams, but the reality of marrying one is more complicated. A new wave of documentaries and profiles is pulling back the curtain on what those relationships actually look like — and the judgment they attract.
In the recent Bonnie Blue documentary, her ex-husband Ollie Davidson spoke publicly for the first time about their decade together. Davidson revealed he not only supported the OnlyFans star’s career but also worked on her payroll. Online reaction was swift. Comments ranged from disbelief — “She has a husband?!” — to sympathy, with one user writing, “I can’t imagine the humiliation that man must be going through.”
Judgment is a constant theme for adult creators who maintain long-term relationships. Anja Little, 45, a LoyalFans model and former Playboy figure, has been married to Brad, 46, for seven years. The pair live quietly in South Germany, both holding healthcare jobs by day. Few in their professional circles know about their X-rated pursuits, a deliberate choice to avoid backlash.
“My closest friends know,” Brad told Metro. “But I keep it away from my family back in the USA’s Bible Belt.”
Behind closed doors, the couple describe themselves as exhibitionists who thrive on the attention Anja’s work generates. Brad admits he couldn’t be with someone outside the industry, saying he would find it “boring.” The lifestyle also feeds their intimacy — with a sex life they claim is as active as forty times a month.
Yet outside of that, they’re, in Anja’s words, “kind of dorks.” Their evenings are spent walking, watching UFO videos, and cooking dinner together. “Our marriage works because it’s built on trust and unconditional love,” Anja said. Brad added: “She still drives me crazy after seven years. I can tell her things I’ve never told anybody else.”
The same dynamic plays out with other couples. Performer Andi Avalon, 36, met her husband Joey, 38, over a decade ago when she was a cocktail waitress and he was a persistent regular. “He asked me out twelve times before I said yes,” she recalled. Neither expected adult film to be their future, but, as Avalon put it: “Life has a funny way of rerouting you.”
For all the stereotypes, the stories reveal a pattern: trust, secrecy, and resilience in the face of public scrutiny. Marrying into the adult industry isn’t about fantasy. As one husband put it: this work “isn’t for the faint of heart.”
Last modified: August 28, 2025
